Create A Script That Allows YOU To Establish And Uphold A Boundary.

Hi Friend,

Recently, I did an Instagram Live dedicated to helping people find their fire and rekindle their energy after losing a job.

These are challenging times, and I feel so helpless watching as smart, talented people are eliminated from jobs they love. I wanted to do what I could to support others in this time of transition (and opportunity!).

During the Live, however, I noticed someone (not one of my usual peeps) had started commenting on my appearance. And while the commentary was complimentary, it made me profoundly uncomfortable.

Uncomfortable is not where I want to be, and certainly not in my own space—so I made my feelings clear:

Thank you for the compliment, but it makes me uncomfortable when someone comments on my appearance while I’m trying to teach.

When they continued the love-bombing, I stopped what I was doing, and blocked them.

I then explained that action to my peeps:

We don’t have to tolerate behavior that makes us feel uncomfortable. Period.

It felt so good to stand my ground and hit the eject button. And what made it feel so good was that I had a phrase ready to deploy. I didn’t even have to think about it.

Thank you for the compliment … (this acknowledges/allows for good intention on their part)

But it makes me feel uncomfortable when someone does X (this makes it crystal clear what the problematic behavior is).

Once I established that boundary, I felt absolutely free to enforce it.

BLOCKED. Thank you. Next.