There’s a reason people use the word “presence” interchangeably with “charisma.” Just the simple act of being here in this moment, being mindfully present with another human being can be so powerful that people instantly notice it.Read More
For a culture as obsessed with achievement as ours is, you’d think we’d be really good at processing and internalizing our successes along the way.
I’m here to tell you otherwise:Read More
There are few things that scare me as a public speaking coach, but this phrase does it every time:
“Yeah, once I memorize my presentation script, I’ll be good to go.”
This is the point when my circuits get jammed, and I want to reach across the table and shake my client and warn them with language as strong as I can muster…
DON’T. MEMORIZE. YOUR. TALK.Read More
This Blog Post, is like, um, Important: Dealing with Vocalized Pauses
Ah, the vocalized pause…
The “ums” the “uhs” the “like”s that can riddle our spoken sentences like bullet holes. If you are someone who struggles with the tyranny of the vocalized pause, there are two things I want you to know:Read More
You know that moment. You’re in a meeting (or worse, on stage) and someone says something that hits you right in the solar plexus. Your face heats up, your heart races, you feel rage, or fear, or embarrassment, or sadness—pick your poison—and before you know it, you’ve missed the last 3 minutes of the meeting, lost in your own reaction. If you’re someone whose default reaction is to fight back, you consider your counter-attack. Or your default reaction may be to get out of the meeting as quickly as possible, and stay as quiet as possible in the meantime.
Either way, from my perspective as a communication coach, you are in a death spiral. Once you go into default-reaction mode, it is unlikely that anything good will come out of your mouth.Read More